“Getting well is possible, even when it feels impossible.”

My connection to West Kent Mind has always been personal. My Dad, Barry, volunteered as a gardener here for over ten years, supporting others with their wellbeing through gardening. In Sevenoaks, he was loved and respected, and through him, I already felt connected to the charity. When he died last year, it was devastating, and it made everything about my relationship with West Kent Mind feel even more special.

I never imagined I’d struggle with my own mental health. I’d never had mental health problems before, but at the start of last year my job became overwhelming, stressful, and relentless. I hit burnout, and depression hit me like a tidal wave. Seeing my dad unwell made me feel even more unsettled. For six months, I was severely depressed I couldn’t get out of bed and face the day. I’d always thought of myself as someone who could cope, but suddenly I felt powerless and completely lost. The support I needed from the NHS wasn’t there, which made me feel even more alone. That’s when I realised how crucial organisations like West Kent Mind are, for people like me, for families and for communities.

It was the love and support of my wife, family and best friend Paolo that kept me going. With their support and encouragement, I began taking medication that helped me and attending counselling. Slowly, I started to rebuild my life, learning that ‘getting well’ is possible, even when it feels impossible.

To celebrate how far I’ve come, in September I raised vital funds for others experiencing mental health problems, and in memory of my Dad, my two great friends Neil, David, and I recently completed a triathlon for West Kent Mind. The whole experience was incredible! On the day, a fellow triathlete, who had experienced mental health challenges in the past donated £200 whist we were at the event! Together, we raised over £3,400! I still can’t believe the generosity and kindness we experienced.

This journey has shown me that even in the darkest moments, there’s hope, and there are people and services ready to help you rebuild your life. West Kent Mind will always be a really special place to me because of my Dad. I hope my story reminds anyone struggling that you are not alone.

📷 David, Neil and Scott celebrating their triathlon success
📷 Barry and his grandson Alessio spending a sunny day gardening together